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That is true. If I am deceiving my self, and rationalizing things I want to believe in even if they are not true, I will not be able to be honest with others because I will not tell them the real truth, but the deception I convinced my self is true.
Those two go together. If you are dishonest with others there is probably some fear involved, and if we have fears we probably also lie ourselves about the reason of lying to others. In other words, we lie to others because it is easier to find an excuse for it, than to find strength to face and fight fear -- fear from consequences of being honest. How true. I love the definition of Effective Communication that I learned early on. Effective communication occurs when the people involved are willing to change as a result of this communication. That speaks to people actually hearing what someone else says instead of preparing their answer. Therefore when someone says they don't want to talk about something it means they do not want to change... usually with arms crossed. Why is it sometimes easier to be honest to strangers than to people we know? But can we ever know the 'real' objective truth, or is it always subjective?

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