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I want to experience sex with someone other than my fiancee, the only one I've had sex with. Is that wrong? It doesn't feel wrong to me but I'm constrained by a monogamous society.

This is a very genuine concern and i am glad you were honest about sharing it. I strongly recommend that you share your honest feelings prudently with your fiancee and then make decisions. He/she might understand the place you are coming from. But you will certainly have to decide whether you want to be monogamous after the marriage or not long with your husband/wife I think it's only natural that you're curious. I married my wife and she was virgin. I was very experienced (compared to her) and sometimes I feel a little bit guilty that she didn't have the experience I had. I love her dearly. Now our sex life is not good as I lost interest. It's not necessarily greedy or wrong but cheating is cheating, no matter what because of the emotional connection you have with people you have sex with. BUT test the waters by suggesting a three way. Know lots of people in 'open' relationships and they seem happy enough. it is very greedy to want to have sex with someone else. greed is bad. be happy with what you have. your poor fiancee.
Aside from the possibility of developing feelings for the other person, the feelings of their fiance should also be taken into consideration. There is much mental and emotional anguish to be suffered from a cheating spouse. To be curious is fine, but do the right thing and let your fiance go before exploring the thought. The hurt and confusion will be far less by you leaving, than if you cheat. You have greater dilemma here. What will happen if you have sex, and then you fall in love with that person. Emotional attachment to another person is much bigger deal than simple physical sexual exchange. Why do you want to experience sex. Is the sex you are having not good? Maybe I should ask my fiancee if it's all right. I want to experience sex with someone other than my fiancee, the only one I've had sex with. Is that wrong? It doesn't feel wrong to me but I'm constrained by a monogamous society.





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